I was inspired to write this from a woman’s perspective after watching a video on YouTube called “Christian Singles: How far is too far?” which I would highly recommend for singles! Ladies, one of the things that we are typically known for is our affection and nurturing spirits. Granted, yes I realize that not all women are like this but for the most part we show our love for people by being affectionate whether it’s with words or through touch. The problem arises when the whole touchy feely affection leads to boundaries being crossed. I get it, as women we oftentimes love to hug and to kiss and just be affectionate and so the idea of even possibly being in a relationship with someone that you are not married to without doing those things seems really challenging and impossible to some. Philippians 4:13 tells us that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us so that is a reminder to not put our strength of our cans and cant’s into our hands. We have to realize that it is never a question of whether or not the devil is going to tempt us because he will, but real the question is how we will respond when we are tempted. God will always give you a way of escape when the devil tries to tempt you (1 Corinthians 10:13) but it’s up to you to take it.
We have to learn to stop making exceptions and overlooking the warnings that the Holy Spirit gives us when we are pressing the boundaries. The reality is we already know what the deal is when we get that message from a guy asking what you’re doing or if you want to hang out later. Especially when that message comes after a certain time at night and you know good and well that boy does not want to hang out with you so ya’ll can sing here I am to worship together. Homeboy is trying to lay hands on you and I’m not talking about holy hands, okay. You know what the deal is yet you respond and even have the nerve to attach a smiley face with it. Ladies, cut it out; you have to realize that men are natural hunters and in the best way to put it they will try to wear you down! You saying no I don’t think that’s a good idea J to them is like saying I’m telling you that I don’t think it’s a good idea but I like the attention so I want you to try harder. You may be thinking well I was just trying to take the edge off so it wouldn’t come off rude yet he takes it as an invitation to keep interacting with you and to eventually convince you to say yes. Just stop entertaining it all together; guard your heart in this area so that you don’t end up in a compromising position later on.
We also have to be mindful that even the smallest most innocent gestures can be taken in the wrong way by someone of the opposite sex or can also put you in a very tempting situation with your significant other. You may not want to hear this, but the truth is it’s not always the men who are trying to tempt the women but sometimes we are the ones doing the tempting. Sometimes we don’t even realize it and other times we do it intentionally to push the limits and see how far we can go yet still remain saved. You may dress sexy because you want to keep your relationship spicy and make sure that your guy sees that you’re worth the ring. Let me share some insight with you all about good Christian men; a good Christian man is a praying man. A good Christian praying man will be asking God to lead him and keep him focused on things that glory Him. A good Christian praying man is also asking God to remove anything that is not like Him that would cause him to get off track in his walk with Christ. Girlfriend, if you are a temptation to that man and are playing an accomplice with the devil to plant seeds of lust in his heart, God will remove you point, blank, and the period. While you’re trying to be “sexy” and get a man by the physical, that man will be praying against you. Just as you don’t want anyone to be a stumbling block to you as you are pursuing God, make sure that you are not a stumbling block to someone else.