My husband needs help! I do too, of course, but I mean, he needs my help! God has designed us as women to help our men. It is not because they are weak but because they are not always as help-full as they can be for God’s purposes without their wives.
Together we must learn to be dependent on the ultimate Helper – The Holy Spirit! When you see your husband going astray, falling into sin, cheating, lying and losing interest in God and fellowship, you need to help him.
Perhaps you have talked with him, maybe even argued. You may have begged him to go to church and asked your friends for advice. But can I suggest that you use the power of the Holy Spirit within you? When you don’t pray, you have no idea what could have been prevented. The Lord tells us to ask, but we don’t. We are instructed to forgive but never do. Let the Holy Spirit work in you and give you the power to do your part. In this way, your marriage is synchronized.
You see, marriage is like a track meet that you and your spouse are running together, joined at the ribs. If you don’t have a goal or an aim, you may head off in different directions. You cannot help him then. If one begins to stumble then it won’t be long until you both fall. You need to take turns carrying the load. There is a rhythm to marriage and it makes the work much more bearable. Sometimes you need to go back to work and he needs to change the diapers. Sometimes you need to iron his shirts and he needs to cook. Other times, roles are reversed. In any case, watching how others are running the track meet is sure to throw your rhythm off. Stay focused on your race!
What goal are you helping him to meet? May I also suggest to you that your mutual goal should be to make disciples? You make and raise children together. You build the kingdom of God through intentional relationships together. You show the world God’s love by staying together!
Discipleship cannot happen solo. Jesus even sent his disciples out two by two. The bible says:
“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
I don’t know about you, but I want a good reward for the labor that is put into my marriage! The term help meet is old school, but so applicable to our relationships. In what ways will you be a help meet? Run together, run well. Don’t give up because quitting isn’t worth it. Once you learn the ryhthm of living together, it’s difficult to run with anyone else.